Our conversation began with a question about flowers.
From there we “chip-chatted” (as Jake says when I talk too much) about cookies, farm camp, teaching our children, public verses private education, homeschooling and finally
It was an enjoyable discussion particularly the part where we passionately discussed children and education and
This precious mother of two, expressed how desperately she wants whats best for her children.
Don’t we all??
So how do we decide what’s best for our children? who decides? our parents? best friends? our church family? the government?
Would you say you are easily persuaded? Are you confident when flying solo? Would you consider yourself to be bold?
I dare say we all want our children to be successful, productive members of society as they mature.
Many get caught up in the dream of becoming Mr. All-AMERICA or a Miss America and that’s fantastic if that works out for you and yours but the reality is there is only one Miss America crowned each year.
May we be real here for a moment??
There are apples and there are bananas.
and I LOVE apples 9red, yellow and green) and I LOVE bananas.
BUT apples ARE NOT bananas nor are bananas apples.
Case and point..
Be honest with yourself and your children.
It may have been my second year or maybe my third year in the classroom. I had no children of my own at the time. I cherished my students and treated them as they were mine.
I had a handsome little fella who was well liked by his peers, quick as a cat, manners & handwriting that made my heart sing
and yet he could barely read his name.
His mother would join us on various occasions. She would carry on singing his praises (loud enough for he and ALL of his peers to hear) “You are the smartest boy in this class! I bet you are the best reader Mrs. Smith has ever had!”
He was not.
Fact: He knew it, she knew it, his peers knew it and I knew it.
I politely encouraged this mother to stop lying to her child. Though I can’t recall my exact word choice .. she got it. I challenged her to accept that her child may not have been the best reader in our class and assured her that he did indeed excel in other areas.
I encouraged her to praise him accordingly.
He finished strong and is very successful in his current endeavors.
The moral of the story…
Accept your children as they are…
It’s their lot
and yours as their parent
set realistic expectations
expect their best and pray to be SURPRISED!
know that no child is GREAT at EVERYTHING!
as are none of us
no not one.
this isn’t rocket science yet maybe it’s something you haven’t made peace with..
I have two boys
their physical appearance to many is as close as that of twins
but I can ASSURE YOU
fearfully and wonderfully (& UNIQUELY) original
one loves animals and is a natural around them just like his daddy
while the other is as nervous as a cat on a tin roof on the back of a horse
one equipment lover with the memory of an elephant #nevereverforgets
the other rarely wears shoes or socks that match because he can’t find the mates
one is agile..a natural athlete
the other not-so-much #turtlespeed
one is extremely responsible
the other a spaz-o, FORGETFUL-0-me-o-my
not to mention their learning styles
one reads very well,
the other s-o-u-n-d-s-o-u-t-e-v-e-r-y-s-i-n-g-l-e-w-o-r-d
seriously. it can be painful.
yet his mental math blows my mind
they’re different and that’s ok
because God has a job for each of them to do
a mission for each of their little lives
specially designed plan,
by the Creator of the Universe
our job as their parents is to pray for them, encourage, & equip them to listen to Him
train them to use their God-given, natural abilities and gifts for
that’s the whole point.
you may say….
“but they’re just kids”
yea, they are
but what if…….I start praying & encouraging my children NOW at 5 and 7 to be on mission for Him instead of waiting to pray or discuss or encourage them when they’re older and hormonal and weird but instead they grow up believing that SERVING HIM, being on MISSION for HIM, SHARING HIM with others is normal that it’s NOT ALL about them it’s about HIM.
passionate about this topic….
and I could go on and on but I won’t because I want you to come back!
pray for your babies. pray with them
pay attention to what they’re really good at
consider how long it’s been since you praised their strengths..
talk to them about the Lord
and ask them
“What do you think God has planned for you?”
“Do you think God has a special job for you?
and then …
really listen to what they share
and remember Matthew 19:14
I can’t wait to hear what they share with you!
Let me know how it goes in the comment section :O)