So here’s the deal. Parenting is hard. I’ve never been a momma before. I mess up and lose my cool and “roar like a lion” as one so politely told me at bedtime last night. Thankfully there is grace. What’s even greater- His grace is new each morning.
Had a good talk with one of mine today. I will respect his wishes by leaving his name out. Your odds of guessing which one are favorable because I only half 2 boys and discussing with one of them for any longer than like 5 seconds about anything other than seals doesn’t happen- I digress.
Case and point. “Mom that embarrasses me!” “No, don’t take my picture. I don’t want it on Facebook” He has said to me recently more than once. Today we had a good talk. I heard his little heart and he heard mine. Much like the baby daddy this one would rather blend in than stand out. Behind the scenes is his favorite place. No limelight for him. Ever. is juuusst fine. A quiet compliment is okay but please “don’t make a fuss,” he says.
So what’s a mom to do??? When she is so proud of the young man he is becoming. And she wants to share with the world via FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM or TWITTER his bits of unbelievable wisdom–wild beyond his years…As well as his creativity, ingenious ideas — heart so BIG and so sensitive it sends me right up to the ugly cry at the mere thought…???? I ask you?? WHAT’s A MOM TO DO?
Then a whisper…
Respect the young man he is becoming and his privacy. Respect his wishes. Even though YOU want to share -some things and ideas are his. Ask for his permission before sharing with the world because one day he won’t be the little fella he is now.
And so I did. I asked him today for his input on a plan. How can I share with the world stories and lessons the Lord is teaching me through him and still respect his privacy. Here’s how it went down:
“So what’s your ideas buddy? How can mom share bits about you that won’t upset or embarrass you? Do you want me to just refer to you as one of my boys or how about a nickname?”
“Yea, that’ll be okay.”
“Which one?? Referring to you as my boy or a nickname?”
“A nickname is fine.”
“Got any ideas on a name?”
“Yea, Jack. Just call me Jack.”
“Okay buddy, I mean ‘Jack’, sounds good.”
Lesson #9879896540587 that my children have taught and/or reminded me of-it’s not all about me.
PS-How do your kids feel about being in the limelight?? I’d love to hear from you :O)
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Linda Reed Burgess says
My kids are grown ups now but they all were shy when they were younger.
He sure didn’t get his “shy” qualities from his momma :O)