“Please don’t ever think you are above such temptation.”
Were the wise words offered to me over a decade ago
from a dear, precious mentor
as I shared my heart wrenching disappointment…
someone I loved dearly had been unfaithful to their spouse.
deceit are ugly.
the ripple effects of such betrayal
shortly after this particular conversation with my wise friend
I decided it was imperative to discuss with Love
should this particular snare ever present itself to either of us
let’s be real.
seduction is everywhere
in YOUR FACE
as subtle as a snake
I will never forget his face as
our conversation began:
“We need a plan.”
Love: “about what?”
“What are you going to do if an aggressive woman approaches you?”
(for those of you who don’t know me very well.. I’m a take the bull-by-the-horns kinda gal)
his crinkled, confused brow expressed his confusion as to where this conversation was going
“Well?? I need to know. I know there are aggressive women out there. I am one and I need to know what you are going to do if one day while you are shoeing horses you are approached. It happens babe. Everyday. It happens. And I don’t want it to happen to us”
Love: “Are we really talking about this?”
“Yes dear, we are. We need to be proactive. So??”
We ping-ponged back and forth in the same manner for a bit before concurring on a few things that were
just. upright. noble.
- Always be truthful. Not selective. Whole truth and nothing but the truth. Always. About everything.
- Stay above reproach Be cognizant. Not allowing ourselves to be put in a questionable situation. Including not counseling one of the opposite sex with personal matters without the other present.
- Set healthy boundaries Be careful not to get too cozy with your friends and their spouses. Keep private matters, private.
- Open door policy Passwords. Cell phones. Appointments. His business is my business and visa versa.
and last but not least
- Take care of “us” Communicate on an intimate level daily. Not just on a cliche’ level.. “Hi, how are you?” ..Take time to listen. Care. Date often. Respect each other.
It’s been thirteen years since we had that initial conversation
We revisit the topic occasionally
Particularly as we hear of other covenants that have succumbed to the lie of seduction
Our marriage isn’t perfect
some days are FAB!
but, we are committed.
to each other and to our God to whom we made our covenant
“Until death do us part.”
have you and your spouse had “the talk?” Do you have a plan??